Individual Psychotherapy

Clients I work with tend to begin therapy feeling dissatisfied with how their relationships have turned out. They care so much about the people in their lives, but continually find themselves feeling hurt. Their discomfort with conflict and disappointing others can feel debilitating. They often worry that they’re too much, and that having needs and desires of their own might scare others away. 

They often feel compelled to shrink parts of themselves around others. They hope this will lead to a greater feeling of acceptance, but just wind up feeling smaller, less fulfilled, and often still feel worried about being judged. 

They’re keenly aware that they are the common denominator in each relationship, in each setback, and they wonder what's wrong with them. This might begin to feel like a fixation, a replay of everything they do and say, searching for something to criticize. It can feel hard, at times, to like themselves. 

They crave connection and confidence and safety, but worry it isn’t possible. They worry something is inherently wrong with them, that they’ll never feel normal or deserve to be happy.