Intimate Partner Violence: Find Support and Healing
Therapy for adults in Michigan experiencing or recovering from intimate partner violence
What is Intimate Partner Violence?
Intimate partner violence is a pattern of behaviors a person takes to maintain control over a romantic partner. It can show up in a variety of forms, including physical abuse, emotional abuse, sexual abuse, and financial abuse. Quite often, an action or pattern will fall under more than one of these categories.
You might be unsure whether what you’ve experienced in a relationship is intimate partner violence. This is very common–abuse tactics can be incredibly sophisticated and sometimes subtle, which might lead you to question your experience. The typical cycle of abuse makes it even more difficult.
If you’re still trying to make sense of a current or previous relationship, we can work together to process your experience.
01. Therapy for Intimate Partner Violence
If you’re experiencing toxic relationship patterns, the idea of getting support can be overwhelming. You might really love your partner, despite all that has happened. If they’re a financial provider or co-parent, it’s probably hard to imagine a way forward without them. You might be nervous about judgment or pressure from others–even a therapist.
All feelings are welcome here. I will never judge you for what you’ve been through or how you feel about it. I won’t pressure you to leave a relationship that you’re not ready to leave.
My goal is to provide the support necessary to allow you to safely weigh what’s best for you. Our work will prioritize on the following:
Physical safety - We’ll discuss how safe you feel spending time with/sharing a home with your partner. If you’ve felt physically threatened, we can work together to create a safety plan to give you a greater sense of security and control in your environment. We’ll start with what you already know, and build skills and knowledge from there.
Emotional safety - Starting with our relationship, we’ll focus on how you can feel safe to express yourself and navigate the emotional landscape before you. We’ll collaborate to process what you’re going through, and what you need in order to feel more supported in your life.
Options - Once physical and emotional safety have been addressed, we have more space to assess your options. What is best for you and your family? What do you want? What will enable you to make the decisions that feel right?
Creating and tapping into a solid support system is the most bolstering thing you can do if you’re experiencing abuse. Knowing that you aren’t going through it alone–either emotionally or practically–can give you the momentum to take whatever steps feel right. If your relationship has led to isolation (as abuse often does), therapy can be a lifeline.
Together, we’ll help you feel more in control. You’ll get to know yourself again–your wants and needs, the things that bring you joy, the qualities that make you feel most like yourself. You’ll learn skills that can help you manage your feelings before they get overwhelming. You’ll start to identify people you can trust and lean on.
The path forward probably feels daunting, but your strength got you this far. Getting support can help you catch your breath and prepare what’s next.
You deserve a peaceful and joyous life where you can be your whole self. I’d love to support you in getting there.
02. Therapy for Abuse Recovery
Life after an abusive relationship is complex. Your experience might include feelings of grief, joy, anxiety, and relief. Often, the period after an abusive relationship ends is when folks experience the onset of PTSD symptoms. You want to create a fresh start, and instead you feel distressed, reliving the anxiety and confusion you had then.
No two experiences are exactly the same, and people bring different experiences to the therapy space. Our work will cater to where you are in this process and might include some of the following:
Recovery - We’ll focus on how you can make your life feel like yours again. This can mean establishing a sense of safety, rebuilding your support system, and adjusting to a new set of needs, among other work.
Healing - Intimate partner violence is a traumatic experience that can impact you long after the relationship ends. We will work to understand the scope of your experience and heal the traumatic wounds that continue to cause distress.
Relationships - Looking forward, we’ll work on learning to trust yourself and another person in a relationship again. If you’ve experienced a pattern of abuse in relationships, we can explore why that might be and learn to identify potential partners who feel safe.
As we work together, clients begin to notice more moments of calm and presence. They’re able to tune into and trust their intuition again. Over time, they get better at managing the overwhelming feelings that come up in response to triggers. They rediscover who they are–the strength that has gotten them through, and also a joy and lightness that hadn’t been accessible previously.
Clients often describe a feeling of being at home in their minds and bodies again–being at peace, and finally getting hopeful about their futures. You can reconnect with yourself and, eventually, feel safe enough to let others in, too.
If you’re currently in crisis, please contact The National Domestic Violence Hotline: https://www.thehotline.org/
1-800-787-3224